A friend of mine . a true friend
  has faced a loss. a true loss
      i do not know what to say
i feel like words are useless
my use of them would only veil
what is truly felt,
a faint shadow of things so big they cannot be spoken. of course we will try , and we Will mean it.\; But how do you  truly speak of agonizing pain without igniting it anew.

(so now late in the morning I realise.
what must be shared is emphathy. not pain/Love not loss. im going to call.)

 so

Pole sana my friend
i am sorry for the distance i let be.
    and that at this moment my condolences do not even come close to expressing ...
pole sana my friend
 but in all things give thanks. u cannot lose something unless u had it first

to u bro, to your siblings and family , my deepest condolences.
Gods grace is upon you all ,